Lynx, I feel for you. I am in the same spot as you only at one year instead of two. Nothing like Hubby just out of the blue (or at least felt out of the blue) stating he wanted a divorce because he wants to be single for a while. Sorry, that just seems like a lame excuse, but it is what it is. I hope you recover soon, Hug

Hi Lynx, I split up from a long relationship over two years age and I'm only now over it! For all that time I sat and wondered wtf did I do wrong and I came to the conclusion that it wasn't actually me that was at fault! That may just be my ego helping me to repair myself but I can say with all honesty that I did nothing untoward. In those two years I became a bit of a recluse and had no social life at all...most friends drifted away from my misery but left me with a handful who didn't insist I "pull myself together" but stood by me and encouraged me in my brief times of happiness (not so unhappiness). I've never been a depressive sort of man and I couldn't handle being down, I was just not accustomed to feeling like this/that. Finally my optimism returned and though I'm still lonely I can honestly say that time does heal and look out ladies I'm back! The 'trick' that seemed to work for me was to pretend I was a year older (and wiser) and look 'back' on myself in the depths of despond and think "you poor ol' sod"...I hate feeling sorry for myself and it gave me a different perspective on my then current situation. So...look out ladies I'M BACK! and life is a grin again : ) Good luck and I hope you heal soon, Love Chris X