I NEED new friends! I recently lost a number of friends due to my "defective" personality, and I'm of the mind that I need some friends who can tolerate (not necessarily approve of) my "defective" personality. Of course in this world without consensus, no two people share the same view of what friendship is. Therefore, I've concluded that friends are required to find a compromise on their defintions of friendship. But that hasn't worked for me lately. One former friend of mine seemed to have decided that his definition of friendship is superior to mine. As a result, I had to follow his defintion of friendship (which includes being banned from his house for life). Since I thought (and still think) that's bullshit, I had to end the friendship.
Since there is a population of 6 billion, it should be entirely possible for me to find a few folks who can tolerate my "defective" personality. If not, then I guess that means life sucks far more than I thought it did.
Since there is a population of 6 billion, it should be entirely possible for me to find a few folks who can tolerate my "defective" personality. If not, then I guess that means life sucks far more than I thought it did.
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Re: I NEED new friends!
Mon, April 17, 2006 - 8:48 PMYou DO NOT have a defective personality you have defective freinds. You are well you and you should have to apoligize or change who you are by no means neccessary. If your friends can;t except who you are then they are not your friends and you need new ones.
I personally only have less then a handful of close friends, and they except me for exactly what I am (a crazy b*tch) and they love me for it. Cause if they want the truth they come to me and I'm crazy enough to give it to'm like it is.
Your friends should never make themselves suprior to you, you should be equals, cause friendship is not a dictatorship, one friend is not more important then the other, you need each other.
Maybe you should post what you think friendship is maybe then we all can help you more in telling you wether it is your friend that is defective.
What i think friendship is two (or more) people that hang out and talk about problems. and make each other feel important in this world (that really sucks sometimes, and you do feel like just ending all the pain) but your "friend" is suppose to make you realize that it's all worth sticking around for, being alive and trudging on., seeing how it ends. I geuss friendship should be like being in a relationship without the sex, I geuss.
I hope some of this makes sense to you, cause sometimes I don't make any sense to myself. -
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Re: I NEED new friends!
Wed, April 19, 2006 - 6:48 AMTo me, friends are those special people who will uct you some slack and tolerate or "abberant" ways. Otherwise, you wouldn't be allowed to have a "abberant" ways. I have noticed that I: tend to get along great with those who can tolerate my "abberant" ways, while I get along miserably with those who don't. That asshole who banned me banned me because he thought he was doing me a favor. That's one interpretation. Another interpretation would be that he could no longer tolerate my "abberant" ways. And if I didn't have "abberant" ways, there's a good chance he never would've banned me.
If the U.S. is the free country that people say it is, then I should have the right to be as "abberant" as I want (as long as I'm not breaking laws and such). Likewise, if people hate my "abberant" ways, they have the right not to deal with me. That leaves me with the option of only being friends with those who can tolerate my "abberant" ways. It may or may not be the ideal solution, but that is how things work in this world without consensus.
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Re: I NEED new friends!
Thu, April 20, 2006 - 8:20 PMI'm fucken crazy. Sure I'll be your friend,life is too short to not want to have tons of friends.
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Re: I NEED new friends!
Sun, April 23, 2006 - 2:52 PMone doesnt need a ton of friends.
that can spell trouble
one needs friends that can relate, are like minded, and supportive -
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Re: I NEED new friends!
Thu, May 4, 2006 - 10:36 AMGood friends or close friends to me are like family. You are there for them, as they are there for you. stephen has it right. They should be able to relate to you on some level and they should be supportive. They should be able to give you ideas on things, not TELL you what to do.
YOU are free to walk your own road.
EVERYONE is free to walk their own road, and learn their own lessons.
FRIENDS should be there to help you on the road you choose.
Life is full of choices, and possibilty.
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